I'm not a girl that needs to be told she looks pretty all of the time or that needs to be flattered in many ways. Nothing like it. In fact, it usually makes me feel very uncomfortable. Most of the time, I see it as leaning towards bullshit and I think that's fine. I mean, why else would someone be taking the time and making the effort to go out of their way to talk to me about random things I know they don't want to talk about? If we have nothing to talk about, then let's not talk and save ourselves the trouble of trying to flatter and coax each other into mutual attraction. I see through most of you. It won't work. I'm not into that. Words of affirmation are great when I think that it's genuine. That means so much to me. But if I don't feel it is genuine (if I feel it's something that is being said just for the sake of being said), I view it as a distant, almost perverted, and embarrassing thing. I view it much in the same way as a cat call. As well-intentioned as it may be, it is not your place. I don't know what points you're trying to score in the man department by talking extremely loudly to me about Chucks and how cool you are/heeberdeeber I am, but really what's happening is you're turning into every other guy in my mind. Dis. Interestedddddddd. Too much of a good thing becomes a bad thing. I want someone that's nice, but not too nice. Cares about me, not about what "lots of girls like, duuuuuude." I appreciate the intention, but I find it unnecessary. You don't have to try so hard with me. In fact, please don't try at all. It's much less stressful and less awkward.
By the way, this isn't about any one person necessarily. This is a pent-up vent that's been waiting to come out for a while.
It's not even really that I'm that angry. It just frustrates me that people in general care more about scoring than they do the actual person they're trying to play. It just really grosses me out. We weren't made for this.
I took a love language quiz just now (since I was complaining about words of affirmation). Supposedly, I like physical touch, then quality time, then words of affirmation, and then acts of service. And supposedly I don't care at all for receiving gifts. Haha Another way to translate it is Touch Oriented/Verbally Oriented and.... no visual orientation at all.... I hope that's okay.
Also, I am very much an INFJ/Aries. I wish I could post everything I just looked up, but that would seem creepy. Look up YOUR zodiac and Myers-Brigg's personality type! (I feel like all that this blog is missing now is like a Visitor Counter, some type of vertically organized little side panel with listed sponsors, and all of the latest fashions, as well as how I absolutely aDoReeeee Clemence Poesy and Erin Wasson... No, it's ok. I'll go on and fess up to it.
I do. Particularly Erin Wasson, of course.
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